Striving for a mentally and emotionally healthy recruitment.
Not words you hear often, yet the concept is necessary.
Your heart posture during sorority recruitment can alter the trajectory of your college experience, the beginning at least. You can start college with moments of comparison and jealousy OR celebration and contentment. Here's a few tips how...
1. Begin your day reminding yourself who you are; who you know yourself to be. It's difficult to not look at the girl next to you and think her outfit is cuter, she's prettier, or has better conversation. I'm here to tell you from experience, if you let these statements invade your thoughts during recruitment they will reside there through the rest of college. You'll still be thinking this about your sorority sisters, girls you see in class, interview with, see at date parties, friend groups, and the list goes on. These thoughts don't leave, so step on campus with a list of affirmations and reminders of who the Lord has called YOU to be.
2. Find something else to think about. Read a book. Work on a project. I started some "branding" for Flip the Switch during my recruitment (haha). Even binge a tv show (not something I normally suggest). Do something totally unrelated to recruitment. Be careful to not fill all of your time hanging out with friends if they're girls going through recruitment. You don't want every conversation to be "walking on egg shells". Find something you personally and deeply enjoy.
3. Write one thing you love and one thing you don't love about every. single. house. that you enter. This will remind you that no matter how much you love one sorority, they are people and people aren't perfect. Or, no matter how much you dislike a sorority, it is still filled with people worth celebrating. This will also shape your college experience regarding how you interact with non-sorority sisters, cultivating a heart posture that can celebrate each sorority for their uniqueness while finding confidence and contentment in where the Lord placed you.
And to my girls on the inside of the house who are hesitant about the feeling of "judging" people. I see you. I hear you. People will say you're the vessel the Lord is using to help this girl find her place, but truthfully that doesn't make you feel any better. Little I can say will change that. But you can still be a friendly face and voice of home for girls coming through, sorority sister or not.
This experience is what you make it. Make it a mentally healthy one.
Remember, you're more than just a girl going through sorority recruitment...
Your friend,
Mary-Coker
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